The second stray item was in this weekend’s Washington Post, where Kathleen Parker wrote about the sharp increase in obesity, especially among children. As a throw away line, pointing out her own shortcomings she wrote, “And though I tried to provide family dinners most nights when the kids were small, I told my son when he left for college: ‘“You’re gonna miss my takeout.”’
The telling point here is that even for a traditional family, everyone sitting round the kitchen table for the evening meal is not common today. Time pressures with two working parents and children with after school sports and other activities make a family dinner around the table an exception not the norm. While I’m sure Kathleen Parker is a good cook, take out is often for dinner at her house for lack of time to purchase, prepare, and cook a traditional dinner many nights.
While lack of time to cook undermines the family dinner for Kathleen Parker’s family, another even more troubling problem is that many people who have the time to cook family meals, don’t actually know how to do it. Last week on the way home from the San Fernando Valley I stopped at the Ralph’s Market on Ventura Blvd. in Studio City, an up scale LA suburb. I needed the usual mid week shopping stuff: milk, bread and salad greens. I didn’t even need a cart and got in line with my black basket behind a thirty something women with a cart full of everything.
She was slim well dressed and intelligent looking, apparently a stay at home mom. From the large load of groceries it was clear she had a couple kids and a husband. As she loaded the belt on the check stand, I noticed that she was careful to avoid most “junk” food, even the breakfast cereal was not sugary. Much of what she bought was “organic.” She obviously sent lunch with her kids from the amount of precut apples and carrots in little single serving sealed bags and little cups of fruit. She bought chewy dark multigrain bread, organic peanut butter, sliced Muenster cheese and a big cans of tuna. The rest of the cart was frozen itemd: entrees, side dishes and vegetables in this or that sauce.
Then it hit me as the clerk rang up close to two hundred dollars of groceries. This obviously intelligent, affluent and serious lady didn’t know how to cook. Except for a bag of oranges, she had not bought any of raw or basic ingredients. No onions or potatoes, no rmeat, no fresh raw fruit or vegetables, no spices, canned tomatoes, raw dried grains or beans, nothing fresh except two dozen organic free range eggs. (I’m sure she could scramble or hard boil eggs but that is a long way from actually being a cook.) Even the main courses were preprocessed and prepared outside her kitchen.
This woman’s shopping cart demonstrates the same essential problem Jamie found in school kitchens, no knowledge or skill in cooking beyond a few very simple things. Like the schools, this lady knew how to micro wave meals but not how to cook them herself. She paid almost three time the cost of making a pot roast from scratch for a prepared one along with the potato and vegetable side dish. I bring this up because at spice firms like Laury’s offer pot roast seasoning and easy to follow instruction. McCormick’s even has what amounts to a “Pot Roast for Dummies” kit with seasonings a roasting bad and simple instructions. All the lady had to do was buy a fresh chuck roast and a kit, put the meat in the roasting bag with the seasonings, a little wine and she could have made a pot roast. She could have bought three pounds of potatoes and two pound of carrots or broccoli and made the two side dishes. She also bought bagged prepared salads that included the dressing. Why not buy a head or two of lettuce, a bottle of wine vinegar and one of olive oil and make her own salad at less than half the cost of the prepared one?
In my neighborhood there are many immigrant families from a dozen counties near and far. These people buy basic raw or simple ingredients and go home and cook them. Why? Because their mothers and grandmothers taught them how to cook. No big deal you would think, but I’m afraid it is a big deal. It is not just an affluent woman from Studio City but it includes many if not most young men and women. They don’t know even simple cooking. In high school my brother Michael and often made dinner when my recently widowed mother was at work. She and our grandmother taught us enough to make simple family dinners. We didn't need Rachel Ray, although I have to say that she is very good at showing ordinary people how to prepare and cook good dinners.
This is ignorance of how to cook even simple meals is problem for all Americans. It is not the fault of McDonalds or Kentucky Fried Chicken, or any other food company. It is our fault. These firms are filling in the gaps individual families make for reasons of necessity or connivence. It doesn’t have to be this way and it shouldn’t be this way. As fewer and fewer of our children are raised without a traditional family, ignorance about cooking is just one of negative consequences.
“We got a problem in River City, right here in River City” as goes the pitch from “The Music Man.”